Why is it that some people always seem to have a bunch of men or women beating down their doors while the rest of the world sits at home on a Saturday night waiting for a phone call that never comes?
Although we’d LIKE to think it’s just plain luck or these people spend 20+ hours working on their bodies every day to drive this type of attention, the fact of the matter is, that’s simply NOT true.
(OK, so maybe there ARE some examples of that, but not everyone is a cast member on the set of Jersey Shore).
See, it’s not Mr. or Mrs. Six Pack Abs that has a rocking social life…It’s Mr. and Mrs. Joe Schmo that never had a friend in school.
So what is it that THEY do that perhaps you don’t ?
1. They Make It to BAD Events
Even when it’s pouring out. Even if their friends don’t want to go. And even if it sounds like the lamest party EVER… They show up. They don’t ask who’s there. They don’t ask who’s going. They don’t only go where the COOL crowd goes, they go where THEY want to go. And even if they don’t get an invitation, they simply bite the bullet and invite themselves… and strangely enough, they actually meet people!
2. They Explore Down Below
…Below a 10 that is. While their friends are busy looking for supermodels, they’re busy flirting with 6′s and 7′s. While you shouldn’t date DOWN, your standards shouldn’t be over the top. Sure everyone wants rich, gorgeous and successful, but face it…we’re not all getting it. There are some things we all need to part with.
3. They Don’t Wear The Nasty Holey PJs Out
Not even to the grocery store and not even to Uncle Louie’s. They insist on preserving their image. They never know who they’ll meet and where. P.S. you can’t really hide the holes (we still see them).
4. They Suck it UP
Even if they’ve been rejected a billion times, they don’t get mad at the world and take it out on the entire species. They don’t complain about it. They don’t whine about it. They don’t waste valuable time worrying about WHY and HOW.. instead they shrug it off and start again. They go after what the want and they never give up. They’re not quitters. Quitting isn’t their thing.
5. They take NO for an answer
When it’s necessary. They read body language and get the hint when someone is NOT interested. They don’t waste their time driving down a dark rocky road that leads to.. NOWHERE. Instead they spend their time proving themselves to someone that’s actually paying attention.
6. They Leave the Negativity at Home
They don’t walk around with a big cloud crying woe is me. And they certainly don’t sit at home waiting around for impending doom. They never say ‘I’m never going to find anyone’ but instead throw a muzzle on all the negative banter and walk out with a pocketful of POSITIVE.
7. They date OLD SCHOOL
- The men: Open doors, buy flowers, plan dates…
- The women: Dress like ladies and don’t give up the goods on the first night.
Sure, it’s 2011 and there’s probably an App for kissing (of course there is), but they choose to preserve traditions because they know it’s still THE most effective approach. They keep it classy. And the fact of the matter is… there’s no app for THAT.
Let’s start dating smarter!
October 3, 2011 at 1:26 pm
I like to also add: When relationships go wrong, as they sometimes will, they bail out. They see the writing on the wall and walk. They know there are more — and often better — around the corner.
October 10, 2011 at 10:50 pm
Definitely, Jordan. No one should keep driving down a dead end street. Keep it moving!
April 30, 2012 at 5:17 pm
So true…the first one is my favorite…and #5…urgh…#6 too lol…okay I love them all. True story.